It has been a while that I didn’t update my space; today let’s share a story ba. (本故事如有雷同,纯属巧合.)

In 1999, there is a 19 yrs old girl felt in love with a guy who is 10 yrs older than her. He couldn’t give anything to her at that time due to his personal reasons which also understand by her. She didn’t ask anything farther from that relationship, even said “不求天长地久,但求曾经拥有."  of course, they didn’t work out in the end, she couldn’t fully understand why he couldn’t spend his life with her, but still she had a good memory with him.

In 2008, the girl has turned to a mature woman that going to marriage edge, there is a yr 3 university boy who is only 20 yrs old met her incidentally, he told her that he likes her after he had look at her pictures and blog, he sent some pic to her and ask her :”do you like me?” she laugh and replied:” boy, you cannot like someone just by looking their pictures, do you understand?” in the following days, he expressed himself to her in his childish way, such as sending her message one by one even without any reply from her, he keeps saying that he doesn’t expect any future as he understands she will not consider him as her future man, seems like he also wants just 不求天长地久,但求曾经拥有.

A fresh early morning, the girl is walking in the crowd, suddenly she remembers what happed to her in 1999, and of course she realized why he couldn’t spend his life with her at that time, and why she needs to refused to the young boy today.

Can we really date someone without thinking abt the future today?

Why we can do 不求天长地久,但求曾经拥有, when we were young?

What is the age gap between expect 天长地久 and  曾经拥有?

I guess life is just like that; only experience can teach and lead ppl to the right direction.